Quiver Full Adoptions is a non-profit adoption agency focusing on providing a full-service adoption experience that is cost-effective. As adoptive mothers ourselves, we are fighting back against the ridiculously high costs for private adoptions, to allow more people to pursue a calling to adopt debt-free. Quiver Full Adoptions provides encouragement and education every step of the adoption process for both the adoptive family and birth family.
What inspired you to team up and start a business together?
After meeting each other through our own adoption experiences, we became fast friends. The Lord began to grow a burden on both of our hearts for helping other families experience the debt-free adoptions we were blessed with. So after a lot of dreaming and soul-searching, we decided to jump in with both feet and start the business.
We know you’ve recently gone through a pretty big transition with your business. Can you tell us a little more about the changes, and why you decided to make them?
This past summer, Casey and I began feeling a burden not just for adoptive families, but also for the expectant mothers and birth families affected by the adoption process. It broke our hearts that we couldn’t personally connect with these amazing women and encourage them, as we encourage our clients. We knew this meant taking a huge leap of faith and changing Quiver Full from a for-profit company to a non-profit organization, and to be completely transparent, neither of us wanted to. This meant surrendering ownership to a Board of Directors, and that was a little scary. But the burden continued to grow and we made a conscious decision that faith is always greater than fear. After a few months of praying, and talking it over with our husbands, we decided that Quiver Full Adoptions needed to do more. So in January of this year we became a licensed child-placing agency. This means we can now service not only adoptive families, but birth families as well. We are so excited about the opportunities this has opened up for Quiver Full Adoptions, and are anticipating great things for the future!
What role has faith played in your business?
Faith is the only reason we have a business to begin with. This business began with a burden straight from the Lord, and every day our prayer is that if the day ever comes where Quiver Full becomes a business that doesn’t glorify Jesus, that He would close the doors.
Where do you see your business in 5 years?
Our hope is that Quiver Full Adoptions will have challenged other adoption agencies and professionals all over the country to lower their prices as well. The goal is to raise awareness that in order to end the orphan crisis, we need to provide women the emotional support and care they need in order for adoption to be a feasible choice. This doesn’t happen by making private adoptions unattainable, but by allowing parents who experience a call to adopt to be able to pursue that calling without breaking the bank. With more adoptive families out there, our heart is to lessen the amount of women who battle the decision of choosing life for their child, when they don’t have the means to provide for them. We are wanting to create a space where expectant mothers can not only choose adoption to give their child a better life, but that it would also foster the opportunity for them to change their life for the better as well. With counseling, emotional support, and financial classes, our goal is to inspire these women who make these selfless decisions to grow from them and become stronger women because of them.
Now a little more from Elizabeth and Casey individually…
How do you achieve a work life balance with owning a small, growing business and being a mom and wife? What is your secret?
Elizabeth: If someone discovers a secret sauce for this, I’m all ears. The truth is—it’s tough! One thing I am trying to challenge myself with right now, is to completely unplug as soon as I walk in the door. I want to be 100% wife and mama when I’m at home, and never want my husband or son to feel threatened by my work. They are the biggest gifts the Lord has given me, and I also know this is something I have to prioritize in this season. This is hard when we have clients who need us 24 hours a day, so I try to check in with my phone every hour or so when I can, by walking into another room, instead of sitting with my family consumed by my phone.
Casey: The first year in business was very hard with balancing all of my titles and duties. Some days I felt like I was drowning. I would be sitting on the couch with my husband, but I would have my computer open emailing clients. I felt like that was ok, because I was there, but I didn’t realize that wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t filling his love tank because I had my nose in the computer when he really just wanted quality time with me. About a year into it, I realized that the clients would still be there the next day. The emails could wait. The phone calls could go to voicemail. But my husband– he needed me to be ever present when I was home. At that time, I made it a point to put my phone away when I walked in the door, to be present with my family, and to only respond after hours after my children and husband were in bed and asleep.
As moms, we are ALWAYS looking for ways to make life a little easier. What’s your best “mom-cheat”?
Elizabeth: I only give suckers to my kid in the bathtub. 🙂 #nomorestickymess
Casey: I hired someone to clean my home! No shame over here—something had to go, and dusting lost out. Now, I really do feel like super mom when guests come over because my house is always clean and no one knows I have a cleaner…. until now. Go, hire someone, and don’t feel bad. You can’t do it all, but you really can pretend like you do!
What woman in your life inspires you most?
Elizabeth: My mom—hands down! She has always balanced her roles with work and family effortlessly. She’s been my superhero in every season of life, and now challenges and encourages me as a mom. She has taught me so much, but I think the biggest lesson being that God is bigger than any circumstance, and that gives me a right to dream bigger everyday.
Casey: My mom. When we were younger, she would work all day and come home to make me feel like I was the most important person in the world. I’m 28 years old and she still has a way of making me feel so valued, loved, and important.
What is your mama-mantra?
Elizabeth: Don’t let today’s reaction be tomorrow’s regret.
Casey: You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Every once in awhile you need to do something totally selfish. To refuel, I will randomly hire a sitter, get my nails done, get a massage, and read a good book. Then, I go home, love my babies a little better, hug them a little tighter, and kiss them a little more! I am a better wife and mommy when I live by this mantra!
Describe your perfect day.
Elizabeth: My perfect day is a family fun day that ends with a bubble bath and a glass of wine.
Casey: Any day spent with my family is a perfect day. Pajama Days are our favorites! We don’t get out of our pajamas, we eat pizza in the fort, we watch too many episodes of Paw Patrol, and we laugh until it hurts.
If you could share one piece of advice to share with new mamas, what would it be?
Elizabeth: There’s no such thing as a perfect mama—you will fail, cry, lose your temper, and feel like everything is falling apart—sometimes all in the same day. Brush yourself off, take a deep breath, give yourself grace, and go give your child a big hug; because one day that little human will be so thankful for the very things you thought you failed at, will only remember you wiping their tears, loving them despite their mess-ups, and for putting them back together again when they felt their world was falling apart.
Casey: Your agenda is not nearly as important as your child. Rushing from play date to play date, signing up for all of the extra curricular activities, repeating the ABC’s 26 times a day so they’re the first to learn them (yes, I did that), going to classes at the local children’s museum– none of that is as valuable as sitting in the floor and coloring with your little girl, or going in the back yard to toss a football with your boy. The things that matter to my kids are when they get my full attention. They crave me, they need me. Yes, they love all of the fun stuff, too, but when daddy asks them “What did you do today?” They quickly leave out the things I thought they would enjoy and talk about how they did with mommy!